It seems that lately you have been arguing with your partner. Fight here. Quarrel there. And here you are, you end up with lots of teardrops and probably covered with a bruise or two.
Marriage is like a room with one door. You can either fight and save your marriage or take the open door to divorce. It is easy to take an open door, right? But in reality, it is just a mere instant escape to your problems. The idea of having a divorce is not totally condemned. It is best to label it as the “last resort”.
Will you choose to fight and save your marriage or to flight and leave your partner behind? It is one tough decision to make. You do not need to make haste. Think first about the consequences. Think about your future. If not for you, then think about the future of your dear children. You may end up regretting due to hasty decisions.
It might be difficult to answer that question right now. Nevertheless, you should avoid making that hasty decision to divorce. You must reflect on yourself first. Am I ready to make a decision? Well, the following are the indicators which tell you that you are not ready. It means that you have to save that decision making at a later and calmer time.
Hate. Never make a decision because of hate. Hate covers your mind and heart with clouds. It is the worst influencer of decisions. Lots of decisions made by hate are regretted after doing so. Do not decide yet as long as there is a speck of hate. So wait, until your hate subsides.
Distractions. Never make a decision if you have a bothersome problem and you have other top priorities other than marriage. If you are at least trying to save your marriage, it is better to sort out priorities first. Joggle one problem at a time. If you joggle multiple problems at once, you will not have a clear picture of the mess you are in.
Angel’s and Devil’s advocates. There are only two people in marriage—the husband and the wife. It is essentially right that only the two of you should decide whether to save your marriage or not. Some give advices like angels while others are like devil’s advocates influencing you decide hastily. So if there are others trying to influence your decision, save that decision for later so you can decide on your own.
If you have at least tried to reflect on these three, nobody has the right to tell you that you have done absolutely nothing to save your marriage.