A husband and wife are like a fisherman and the weather. The fisherman knows a storm is coming through observing the early signs like the calmness of water and the birds seeking for refuge at trees, caves and cliffs. If a fisherman fails to sense these signs, He might be caught in the rage of the storm.
Likewise in reality, being sensitive to these early signs can save your marriage. Being able to sense these signs does not mean you get too paranoid or become a stalker at Facebook and other social networking sites. To be sensitive means that you must be able to know your spouse in terms of her emotions, her likes, dislikes and so on. More importantly, being sensitive would also entail to be aware of the things that happen between you and your spouse.
To help you save your marriage before it will be too late, you must observe for the following common early signs:
- No more fun. I bet you can still remember the times on your young love. You smile and laugh together at simplest jokes or punch line you throw. You still have fun after hours of talking over the phone or in person. Do you still enjoy and have fun on your talks? It is those enjoyable talks that tie both of you closer. If you no longer be able to enjoy and have fun during talks, then it is an omen that you are drifting apart.
- No more warmth. Waking up in the morning is one of the most enjoyable events of the day. You wake up. Hug your spouse. Feel her warmth. Give a kiss in the cheek. And then you sleep again even you will be late for work. It was like a fairytale come true. Does it hold true until now? Or do you feel empty or lonely even though she’s right by your side the whole night? Warmth is an indicator that your relationship is still alright. If you sensed an aura of coldness from her as early as possible, then you have a better chance to still warm up your relationship and save your marriage.
- No more patience. At those early moments you had with your spouse, you were very patient. It does not matter if she is late. It does not even matter if she talks too much or he does something stupid. But how about now? Does his or her presence irritate you? If you lose your patience easily, then it is a sign. If a small mistake becomes an instant BIG issue for you, then it really is a sign.
Assess yourself base on this signs. It is about time you reflect on your emotions and save you marriage before it’s too late.